I thought I’d make this little series called My Blogging Experience because well… blogging is a whole new world for me and one I don’t think I had figured out. I started my blog five months ago because I’ve always wanted to be able to put my ideas OUT THERE (i.e the Big Ole Scary Internet) and engage with people who liked the same things I liked. Along with creating my blog, I created a Twitter account, which you can follow if you want !
Here’s what I learned so far :
1) Blogging is WAY harder than you think : I took blogging for granted before even getting started, let me tell you this. Blogging takes so much more time than I thought : not because it necessarily takes me a lot of time to write something but because it takes me time to think that what I wrote is worthy. But here’s the beauty of blogging, you don’t have to be constantly reading to update ! I really like that about blogs because back when I didn’t have one, I thought about how I wanted to write about a variety of topics and I thought “But what if it’s a simple bookish blog, what will I do ?”. Well, turns out *insert That Mean Girls Scene* the limit does not exist. You can write about whatever you want, it’s your blog ! I write (and wanna write more!!!) about TV shows and movies and my student life because I see this blog as a creative outlet to express myself and the things I enjoy/struggle with.
2) Plan your posts, Noa !!! (aka, something I still struggle with on the daily) Yup. I’m bad at planning. I haven’t written HALF of what I wanted to write initially when I started this blog and there IS a reason (multiple) for it. Even though I love to organize everything, planning posts has been hard. Getting started, I had planned to post on Mondays and Tuesdays and more often than not, I start writing a post the day before. 1/10 WOULD NOT RECOMMEND for one reason : I’m not proud of what comes out and if I’m not proud about it, I don’t want to post it. I like to think posts over, research etc. and I can’t really do that if I start doing it the day before. If I have no idea what to post, I’ll do a tag because I find them really easy (and sad because I never tag anyone). As of now, I can say I have ZERO posting schedule and… I’m not mad about it (even though I wanna set a regular posting system going). One reason I’m not mad about it is that lately, I’ve been happier with what I post because I simply write when I wanna write.
3) Learn how to be confident (I KNOW IT’S HARD TRUST ME): this, I’m really passionate about because I’m NOT confident at all. Confidence is a process : it’s a fake it till you make it situation. And look, I didn’t believe in that phrase until recently. My main issue was and still is to be confident in my opinions. I overthink everything and for me, it’s so easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of thoughts and self-doubts. I’ve had such trouble trying to talk to people because I always think “What if it’s too much ?” or “What if I’m annoying them ?” One of my biggest fears is to offend someone which I never want to do. Unfortunately, you can’t agree with everyone and that’s okay. As long as you’re respectful about it (and granted the person is not ignorant and rude), be honest and opinionated. I also like to remind myself I’m constantly learning. I don’t know everything about everything. However, I’m willing to be as open-minded as possible and always listen carefully to what someone has to say because hey, we don’t all have the same experiences.
4) Just keep going : I’ve wanted to stop a lot because I was thinking no one was gonna read me anyways and truth IS, yeah it can suck somedays but it’s also such a relief sometimes. I like to write and I want to improve and a blog is the best way to do that. I’ve accepted that I’m not the best at making my blog aesthetically pleasing but I am good at not giving up and that’s what I’m doing. I’m writing and I love it. I’m learning things (so many !) about books, terminologies, but also about myself and my personality. Having a blog just forced me a little more out of my comfort zone and I’m grateful for it.
5) STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS, ITS POINTLESS (SOOOO POINTLESS BITCH STOP IT): this is linked to lacking confidence in writing. I would go on WordPress and check out these amazing blogs with such eloquent articles and beautiful, lyrical sentences and I’d think to myself “fuck, what’s the point of me even trying to write something that’s gonna take me ages and is still never gonna be good enough ?” or “why write this when x post already exists ?”. This is a vicious rabbit hole you DO NOT wanna fall in. Whatever I wanna write, I should because… it’s my blog. But also because someone can write something brilliant and that doesn’t mean nothing will ever be written about it because again, what would be the point ? Doing something because you want to (like writing a blog post) is still valid.
6) The community is really important and if you’re not A Social Bean, it’s hard but not impossible : get a Twitter account and engage with people or engage with other bloggers on WordPress, for example. I’m no expert, trust me but I think it’s important to try and talk to people not only because you have the same interests but because it feels good to talk and share experiences and learn new things (but also Twitter is kind of a hell site). Like I said previously, I have learned SO much from the book community, whether on Twitter or Youtube or Instagram or Blogs/Goodreads and it’s A Good Thing because there’s a lot to learn and sometimes, a lot to change. The final piece of advice I can give (and that might be a given but I’ll give it still) is to… read other blogs. So I already said that getting involved is important but this is something else I’m trying to express. Reading other blogs (their tips, their reviews etc.) is really helpful when it comes to figuring out your own style and what you want to write about. (Side Note : Twitter is great but fuck can it be toxic. It can honestly have such a huge impact on my mood if I let it and sometimes, it’s better to just log out.)
✨Three blogs I’d recommend that have helped me A LOT to figure shit out (I’m still trying hehe and I definitely wanna complete that list) :
Marija @ Inside My Library Mind (especially her article about Edelweiss and how to get ARCS. It changed my life especially as an INTL blogger because I get most of my e-arcs from there !)
Elise @ The Bookish Actress (legit in love with her writing and she has a “newbie guide” that is REALLY HELPFUL)
Kat @ Novels and Waffles (taught me a lot about how to have a pretty blog except i’m utterly talentless when it comes to aestheticsss and shit. still. this blog. popping.)
So I’m far from being an Expert at blogging and I can only speak from what I’ve personally learned but here’s my take on blogging !